Saturday, December 5, 2015

Angry Indian Goddesses are just about angry and that's all there is to it

The first time I had watched the trailer for 'Angry Indian Goddesses' I felt it was movie which I cannot just miss. Quite honestly it seemed like a promising movie about women and friendship and there seemed to be a dark mysterious element thrown in as well so I told one of my best friends that we must watch it the day it would released. We managed to catch the show on the second day of the film having been released and after watching it I felt  annoyed at best. The only saving grace were the fabulous songs which are stuck in my head thanks to Youtube.

What I had expected was a progressive movie. Not only was there no sign of progression but it did not even provide some light hearted entertainment.

The one thing that I have learnt is that  anger is the most destructive and harmful emotions of all the emotions. In the opening scene itself we see a bunch of angry women but somehow it is hard to understand the action that follows. All of us get angry irrespective of gender and age but how we confront that little devilish emotion is up to us. Violence is never a solution and I mean ever. Two violent  actions does not make one violent action right. So no you cannot drop heavy weights  on people's foot no matter what they say and I have my doubts as to whether corporate women tear up the work of their employees even if they are not happy just because the employees are men. So the reactions shown in the movie is definitely not realistic.

If we the women are supposed to feel close to the movie because the women leer at men and use swear words then its job well done,  but you see I firmly believe that peeing in the men's washroom has got nothing to do with  feminism.

Lets come to the point where I actually felt angry. Its because of the cliched characters portrayed in the movie who does nothing to actually uplift women as such.

Why must the corporate women smoke and scream and why should the musician be a rebel without  cause and in 2015 it is hard to believe that the naive housewife asks as intrusive and illogical a question as to how lesbians make love.

Lets take the case of the corporate woman. The director could have actually shown something else rather the woman feeling sorry about her child feeling lonely since she is working which leads her to actually take a drastic corporate decision. Not only is the action unrealistic. The director forgot that being a women and having her freedom does not mean you do whatever the hell you want. if there is a company you cannot take your decision all alone. Anyway he could have shown a corporate woman who fights for her right to balance work and her child by say having her company give women the option to work from home but no there had to be that question raised which is old and does not give any solutions. Is it just the woman's responsibility to raise a child. No it is not but then again he does not provide a solution to how to cope with this age old problem.

Then there is the Delhi homemaker. What I found objectionable was how the homemaker becomes the butt of all jokes. Pray why please is the homemaker the new target of all feminists. make no mistake I work with the corporate world but could we please not show all homemakers as women who are puppets who just had to give in to get married. here we see an educated woman whose answer to why she got married is 'sometimes you just have to give in' I would have personally enjoyed it a lot more if something new was shown. How about a woman who chooses to be a homemaker for a change? Yes the choice could be regressive in some people's eyes  but is it that unthinkable and if it is why so?

The aspiring actress is angry about not having a meaty role in movie roles offered to her but dances around using the same dance steps which I personally find derogatory to women. So what was the point of her anger ? Again there is simply no solution.  Why could they have not shown some independent filmmaker discovering her or something fresh but then again I am not the director or script writer.

Ah but then comes the dark twist and here a solution is offered and the solution is not only unlawful but frankly senseless.  Kill people. 'Khoon ka badla khoon' which translates to murder is the best revenge for murder.

And no, going on a crazy murderous rampage is the worst way to end the movie even if the common man is shown standing by the murders because it were the wrong doers who were killed.

Not just that some issues shown are really not just for women. Any sibling who sees their brother murdered in front of them would feel a lot of rage irrespective of gender and a woman feeling that rage doesnt cut it as a feminist in my book.

Quite frankly there isn't a dearth of movies which deal with women and friendship in the west be it Steel magnolias, Mystic Pizza , Beaches or the more glamourous Sex and the City and I have to say a light hearted movie on women and friendship would have been more welcome than a movie which seemed to have a few newspaper clippings enacted haphazardly.

P.S. Thanks to the very progressive Censor of India the beeps made the movie even more terrible. lets starts living in the 21st century where urban Indian women do use the words fuck, suck, bitch, sex  etc etc etc


Saturday, September 26, 2015

Homemade Body Butter




One upon a time.........................................No right now there is a girl and she wants to believe in sugar and spice and everything nice . She likes to bake cakes and stare at pretty lace and sprinkle some rose water on her face.

Well so just like on a September in 2013 I decided I wanted to express my love for food, creating recipes in my kitchen , dining out at times and thus started writing from For the Love of Food today on just another day in September I have decided to write from a blog which isn't just dedicated to food.

So while my food blog is an expression of my love for making pies , tarts and quiches , cakes and pizzas and of course a lot more this is where I write about everything else that makes me happy.

So you see I was in my garden smelling the roses when I touched the stem and the thorns pricked me and then the dark clouds overshadowed the sky and I was thrown in a whirlwind.

At some point I tried to create my own sunshine and the moment I did that I slowly started coming out of that dark whirlwind.

I love my coffee strong almost bitter and I love my books especially Maupassant or say Jhumpa Lahiri or Austen and a lot of other writers and then like many girls I love pampering myself.

When I say pampering myself it means a day long skin care routine. I think the first time I picked up an eye liner was as a 14 year old.

In between I had completely given up on make up but the one thing that remained constant for me was skincare. So yes wile make up is a powerful tool it all begins with good skin.

I am mostly an au natural kind of a girl so for years I have made my own body butter and I mostly depend on my homemade remedies. Now I know that complete homemade skin care doesn't suit many people and your skin care even when its completely made from scratch should be dependent on skin type , season etc.

So here is to skin care at its natural best. I make this Body butter and use it throughout the year. During the winters I lessen the amount of  hydration in it to make it more creamy.

I firmly believe the best time to apply this is right after bathing. The skin absorbs the product really well and in my case it stays hydrated for the next 24 hours / till your next bath.

I have normal to dry skin.

So here is how I make it

A weighing scale (kitchen weighing scale)

100gm Cocoa butter/shea butter
100ml of Any carrier oil (I mostly prefer almond oil but for extra dry skin I see a lot of recommendation of coconut oil. You may also use Olive oil or any oil which suits your skin)
200ml Rose water /Distill water
80ml Glycerin which can be reduced to 50ml
10 to 15 drops of essential oil of your choice (I always stick to rose essential oil)


The process is pretty simple. Chop the cocoa butter and melt it over a double boiler and then add the oil, glycerin and distill water and take it off the heat and then stir in the essential oil and mix well. Refrigerate and then whisk away to a creamy glory.

I have been using this formula from the time I was 20 years old and before that I used Body shop's body butter and I must say I would never go back to any cosmetic brand for body butter.

Do not refrigerate this formula. In the winters I usually increase the amount of glycerin and oil to make it extra creamy .

My skin stays hydrated for an entire day even when I visit the Himalayan hill stations during winter. I use the product every single day post bath all over my body and it lasts about 3 months to 4 months.


I pick up my cocoa butter from shops which sell cooking chocolate
I absolutely love Khadi's Almond Oil which comes for Rs580 for 210ml
Today picking up essential oil is pretty much easy with the options for online shopping. I pick up mine from Amazon

When I want a body lotion instead of body butter I just add more rosewater/distill water